Our Will Post 4

Our will 13 – Hurts

Caring for the wounded child, nurturing the wounded child, keeps it wounded. The attention we give it re-enforces the feelings of being hurt. Even though we feel like we are protecting it, making it feel safe, we are not doing much to progress past this point. The energy and emotion is still around the wounds and being a child.

I am not at all suggesting that we do not recognize and acknowledge this place of pain. What I am suggesting is that it may be healthier for both the adult us, and the wounded child, to resolve the hurt, thus releasing the damaging ‘hurt’ emotions.

This brings up two questions:

Is it possible to do heal the wounded/inner child?


How can we heal the wounded/inner child? …./14

Our will 14 – Hurts
The answer to both questions is not only yes, but that it is important to do so. The manner of which will be different for all of us. I will give my own experience as an example.

For the usual reasons I cannot remember most of my childhood. As part of my self connection, I thought I should find out what was so terrible that I was blocking these memories.

During this time I discovered that what was important was not reliving these past events. This only brings the past into the present, keeping us trapped in the past. Rather, it was important to find the emotional charge of the past, experience it and then Release the emotions.

It was Recognition, Acknowledgment, followed by Release that was the effective model for letting go of the past.

Over the course of 5 years I tried 3 regression hypnosis sessions, each with a different expert. I discovered that the personal issues, perspectives or techniques of the therapist greatly affects outcomes.

The first session was when I discovered the secret to uncovering, then releasing the emotional charges of our childhood.

The second, the one I am about to reveal to you, was where I discovered the secret to the wounded/inner child. …15

Our Will 15 – Hurts

This particular therapist is a shaman, whose task is helping spirits (souls, ghosts) pass on. She earns a living as a therapist using shamanism and hypnosis. I booked a session for regression hypnosis, specifying that I was not interested in past life, only learning about my childhood.

I lay on her treatment table and she sat back against the far wall, almost 10 feet from me. Having a lot of previous experience with auto-trances from earlier explorations, I allowed myself to enter the hypnotic state quickly, I then separated myself into 2 parts, 1 to have the experience while the other part observed without interference.

Contrary to our agreement and understanding, the therapist commenced with a shamanistic procedure. As it was my intuition that sought a session with her, I set aside my annoyance and went along with her guidance. I had learned quite some time ago that when I ‘show up’ for something, I should not be surprised by what happens to me.

The session proceeding poorly. The therapist asked me to call my animal guide, and to visual certain colors. I had 2 problems: 1. I did not know I had an animal guide, and 2. I do not see colors in dreams or trances. …./16

To be continued …

 © 2015 Galen Dean Loven All Rights Reserved


Our Will Post 3

Our Will 9 – hurts.

Perhaps the greatest expectation we have is THE HOPE THAT WE CAN CHANGE THE PAST WITH WHAT WE DO TODAY. Most of us, when young, received hurts from those we needed for care, shelter, nurturing, or love. Whether or not these hurts were intentional, the emotional impact is deep and profound.

An important fact is that we did not deserve these hurts. Yet, we had to believe that we were somehow responsible. That was the only way we could justify enduring the hurts in order to survive. …./10

Our Will 10 – hurts.

The real, and very dangerous thing about the emotional hurts we receive when we are young is not the obvious. In abuse situations, therapy often focuses on the abuser/abused relationship. If that was all that was involved, matters could be taken care of fairly easily. The problem is not that – it is the SILENCE OF OTHERS that inflicts the real harm (parents, siblings, relatives, friends).

As a child, when we are physically hurt, we usually can run to someone for comfort. In abuse, there is no one. As a child, the oppression of silence means shame and shunning to us. To us, it means that we must have deserved the abuse, that we must have been bad, that we do not fit into the society we need to survive. This is the last separation of us from our core self. The final twist of conformity for survival. The suppression of our spirit. …./11

Our Will 11 – hurts

We are told that we have an inner child, a being that must be cared for, protected, nurtured. For certain we should recognize and appreciate the wee one that we once were. I also think that keeping this inner child a child, we do ourselves, that is the inner child, an injustice.

The injustice is that we do not let it grow up. Consider the inner child as a representation of our core being. By keeping the inner child a child we deny it (our self) the ability to grow up and become all that we can. In a way (see Carolyn Myss, the Anatomy of the Spirit), by returning to the inner child to protect, assure, nurture it, we continue to bring the HURT emotions into the present. Fortunately, there is a way in which we can acknowledge and protect the inner child and come into the present in a solid, vibrant and healthy way. …./12

Our will 12 – Hurts

I had not thought to discuss the inner child in this series. Now, in this context, it seems to be the right time and place. I was not aware of the inner child concept until my painful back experience. During that year of study and research I tried to find mine, and heal it. The fact that I was unsuccessful did not mean that the idea was not sound, only that I could not DO it. The sense of the inner child stayed with me for another 15 years before I was able to resolve my issue. Shortly I will share this experience with you. Until today I had not thought of what most of us mean by our inner child. I now believe that we mean wounded child, that part of us that was unfairly hurt when we were young and defenseless. Substituting wounded child for inner child puts a different light on what we are doing when we care for, and nurture our wounded child. …/13

To be continued …

© 2015 Galen Dean Loven All Rights Reserved

Words and ideas

Cristian Mihai

rw1No matter what happens in my life, there’s one thing I believe in with all my heart: words can shape the world. I believe in the right words said at the right time, I believe in reading someone’s words and deciding a different outcome for yourself.

That’s one of the reasons I write. That maybe once in a while my words offer someone comfort or hope or inspire them to strive for more. I write for someone half a world away to feel less lonely in their thoughts and feelings.

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